Dealing with the Inner Critic

This is one of my favorite teachers, and this may be my favorite video of his so far (and that's saying something). Now look here, if you have a problem with swear words, well, you're just going to miss out on some really good stuff in life, so get over that. Personally, I think they add delightful flavor and realism. So here's Benjamin Smythe being perfect (and swearing occasionally) and you should you watch this one right away to feel better about stuff. I mean...isn't that why you are on this blog in the first place??




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The 100% Perfect Conflict Resolution Method

Are you ready for the way to handle all conflict? You sure? Cuz some of you seem like you really like it...so I just want to check first. Okay....here it is:

You ask the person: What is it that you REALLY want here/from me? What is the deepest/truest thing that you need right now? If I can provide this, I will. Otherwise, you may have to do it for yourself.

Everyone got it? You gotta mean it though. You gotta be willing to deliver if you can.

Now, get back out there and play well with others.

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Addicted to Thoughts?

Some thoughts stick like velcro. And most of us only use our thinking function and have forgotten (or don't even know about) the other ways we can take in information and make decisions and just simply be still sometimes.

This is a very informative talk by Adyashanti. Simple, clear, funny...I think you will like this one a lot:

Adyashanti Talk on SoundCloud.Com

Some quotes from the video:

"All fear comes from thought in the form of memory (past) or projection (future)."
"What do thoughts, feelings, experiences, etc. happen to? The mind says it all happens to me."
"What is your relationship to that endless stream of thoughts in your head? Do you take them to be yours?"

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Work Stress Gone with a Pill?? : Lithium Orotate (Not THAT Lithium!!)

I just started taking this myself and am so excited at the results. Please watch this short video with Dr. John Gray (remember him? Men are From Mars, etc?). This is NOT the lithium you have heard about for people with bipolar disorder. This is something safe, inexpensive and readily available.



Lithium orotate is a natural dietary supplement that can be used in small doses to manage stress and treat conditions like depression, ADHD and PMS.

Many relationship problems and most addiction problems stem from a deficiency of amino acids and minerals in the body. One of the oldest and most researched treatments for emotional difficulties is the mineral, Lithium. It helps balance the production of two hormones, dopamine and serotonin.

In the 1970s, German doctors discovered that if you bind small quantities of the mineral, Lithium with Orotate salt, it could effectively deliver the necessary Lithium to the brain. It was also determined that the body only needs 4.5 milligrams of Lithium; not 500 milligrams, as is often prescribed and produces undesirable side effects.


Unlike lithium carbonate and lithium citrate, the common prescribed forms of lithium, lithium orotate is better absorbed into the brain, so you can take smaller doeses to feel better and have less side effects, if any. Lithium orotate is safer than lithium citrate or lithium carbonate because you can take less of it and still feel the best of lithium.

Animal studies that compared lithium carbonate and lithium orotate found the concentrations of lithium orotate were three times higher in the brain than lithium carbonate. The FDA has approved “Lithium Orotate” for sale in America. “Lithium Orotate” has what is called a "GRAS" status, which means, “generally regarded as safe.” This is the same status that natural food supplements have in the health food stores.

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Stress and Your Health (Graphic)

FROM http://www.bestpsychologydegrees.org/stress-and-your-health/

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Shut Up and Go to Sleep

I sleep 10-12 hours every night.

People say to me at this point, "OMG. How can you, why do you, sleep so much??? That is just weird! You are my stress management instructor, and you are telling me to SLEEP MORE?? What about all the things I have to do and are you DEPRESSED or something?"

To which I remark:

1. No one in this room has ever had their alarm go off in the morning, reached over to turn it off, thinking in their mind: Thank GOD it's time to get up. I was getting SO BORED of sleeping.

2. When you wake up from this alarm, every single day, I know what runs through your head: Holy Mother of God, how am I going to make it through another work day??? I am SOOOOO tired.

So, zip it and go to bed earlier. Every night. Every single night for the rest of your life. You will no longer need "stress management," I assure you.

I just put myself out of business---and gladly so.

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This is Water (An Amazing Video)

Watch this. It's important:



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Video Documentary on Enlightenment, "Deceptively Simple," by Mark Pifer

Mark Pifer's documentary, a personal view of enlightenment.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i6AkXYl4sKo
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15 Things You Should Give Up to Be Happy

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:


1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control. Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind.” Elly Roselle

6. Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it. “Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls,” Joseph Campbell

10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. Give up your excuses. Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. Give up attachment. This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

From an article on http://worldobserveronline.com/2012/04/25/15-things-you-should-give-up-to-be-happy/

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Free Teleseminar with Stephanie: The Nature of Reality

MP3 "The Nature of Reality" teleseminar with Stephanie Goddard:


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