Saturday, December 22, 2012

Train Your Brain

Brain Plasticity in Action: Getting smarter and happier You can re-train your brain to overcome depression and anxiety
by G. Frank Lawlis
Up until ten years ago, the prevailing thought was that our brains were basically the same potential the day we were born until the day we died. As Supervisor to American Mensa, the “High IQ” organization that allows only the top 2 percent of the population on intelligence tests in their organization, I have been reflecting this core belief of genetic intelligence as a standard of scientific basis. However, with the advance of brain scans and increased capability to measure neuron function down to a single cell, I have had to concede that not only can the brain get “smarter and better balanced,” but this process lasts a lifetime. And to put the new findings into greater relevance, the smarter you get the happier you get.

One of the principles of improved brain plasticity, as mentioned in my book entitled The IQ Answer, is that neurons (the brain cells) tend to gravitate toward high activity centers. Much like we develop motor skills to learn to ride a bicycle, the motor cells will accumulate as you build the coordination to keep yourself going. It takes trial-and-error for the brain to coordinate the neurons and accumulate enough for the practice to establish the high level of balancing and muscles to finally build the “package” of neuron connections for bicycling that seems to stay in place for decades.

Consider how emotional “packages” of neurons can be developed that establishes negative-affective states, such as depression and anxiety. These complexes can be replaced by “pleasure” bundles of nerve networks that are much less destructive to one’s life, which as a reinforcer for change. Too often people use this same appeal to become addictive to drug-induced states. You can train your brain to be happy and free from stress.

The first step in re-shaping your brain in its emotional reaction, as well as mental intelligence, is to destabilize the restrictive nerve bundles, perhaps breaking the sequence altogether. Instead of thinking how to do mathematics one way, learn to do it in other ways. If you can’t get out of a stress storm, take charge and re-train to do what you want it to. But first, you have to stop the thinking process. How do you do that? One of the most common ways is to change your breathing patterns. The brain, and the whole body, responds to the patterns of how you breathe. For example, consider that you might breathe 22 cycles a minute, and your brain thinks that you are in danger (the rabbit breath rate.) Naturally you are going to have a brain that reacts in anxiety storms. You won’t be able to think clearly for mental exercises because you would be in survival mode and looking for quick answers instead of thinking through logical solutions. Start breathing in 12-14 cycles and get your brain processing in a more normal state. There are other ways of stopping thinking patterns, like going on vacation, listening to certain music, exercising, etc.

Step two for changing your brain for better emotional solutions is while you have destabilized the anxious brain pattern, establish the pattern you want. Like learning how to multiple or ride a bicycle, find your pattern you like. I have found listening to favorite music tunes works like magic. Some people listen to gospel songs all day, and all they have to do is hum a familiar phrase, and BOOM they are in their preferred states. Romantic songs do it for me, especially Willy Nelson.

As I said, you have to practice what you want or the destructive brain storms return. The more you learn to train your brain for what you desire, the better you can accomplish what you want.

The critical kicker to maintaining your skills in brain plasticity is celebrating your abilities. Similar to the research on behavioral modification, the brain loves adoration. You deserve the slap on the back to brag on yourself. Once I trained my vision acuity from 20/80 to 20/20 and I gave myself a little party. I gave a gift of a new car to remind myself of how well I did. I am now 68, 40 years later, and I still have 20/30, although the car has gone to other junk by now.

I do not consider myself extraordinary in any sense, but my years on psychology have awed me with my brain and all it can do, if you will give yourself a chance. It may sound ridiculous, but that is the stuff of growth. And you have the power to make a difference in your life at any time you want it.

This article was not written by Stephanie, but by G. Frank Lawlis. See Stephanie's site Work Stress Solutions for more information like this.

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

This SHOULD be Happening....Because It Is !

Excerpt from FREE PDF "The Work of Byron Katie"

WHAT IS....IS

The only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is. When the mind is perfectly clear, what is is what we want. If you want reality to be different than it is, you might as well try to teach a cat to bark. You can try and try, and in the end the cat will look up at you and say, “Meow.” Wanting reality to be different than it is is hopeless.

And yet, if you pay attention, you’ll notice that you believe thoughts like this dozens of times a day. “People should be kinder.” “Children should be wellbehaved.” “My husband (or wife) should agree with me.” “I should be thinner (or prettier or more successful).” These thoughts are ways of wanting reality to be different than it is. If you think that this sounds depressing, you’re right. All the stress that we feel is caused by arguing with what is.

People new to The Work often say to me, “But it would be disempowering to stop my argument with reality. If I simply accept reality, I’ll become passive. I may even lose the desire to act.” I answer them with a question: “Can you really know that that’s true?” Which is more empowering?—“I wish I hadn’t lost my job” or “I lost my job; what intelligent solutions can I find right now?”

The Work reveals that what you think shouldn’t have happened should have happened. It should have happened because it did happen, and no thinking in the world can change it. This doesn’t mean that you condone it or approve of it. It just means that you can see things without resistance and without the confusion of your inner struggle. No one wants their children to get sick, no one wants to be in a car accident; but when these things happen, how can it be helpful to mentally argue with them? We know better than to do that, yet we do it, because we don’t know how to stop.

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Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Work Stress Quiz





People like to take quizzes. Here's one regarding work stress.

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Wednesday, November 7, 2012

You Spot It, You Got It





By now, many of you may be familiar with the concept of projection or what some call "shadow work." These terms are used to describe the phenomenon that ALL humans experience, which is to push out or project what we reject in ourselves onto others. Said another way: If you are irritated or angered by another's behavior, it is because you have not accepted that aspect of yourself.

You may be saying to yourself, "Well, that's good! We need to keep ourselves others under control or we would all turn into robbers and murderers!" I look around and notice that those who are self-accepting (flaws especially) are very peaceful. And I notice this "tried and true" method of self-flaggelation hasn't kept our prisons clear and free of humans. So how about considering another way?

Now, this is for YOU. Don't start sharing the link to this blog entry with a "Boy, does my coworker need this..." or "My spouse has got to see this---she projects constantly!" That's just you projecting again...do you see?

We can only change one mind: our own. So here's a video that will help TREMENDOUSLY:



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Tuesday, October 9, 2012

I'll Do It, But I Don't Have to Like It





Motivation. Morale. Enthusiasm. Positive Attitude. These are the buzz words that my clients throw about when talking about their 'lazy employees' (or rather what they lack). But what these supervisors do not understand is that motivation to perform a task--more accurately called 'interest'--- is not something that can be manufactured.

Interest cannot be forced. Interest either comes naturally or must be faked. And faking requires a motivator. We often call this "the carrot or the stick." We can either bribe someone (carrot) or punish someone (stick) to perform a task they are not naturally interested in.

Does your interest in getting something done come from somewhere else? No. This is not about how someone was raised or whether they are a good person or not. This isn't any different than, say, gravity. If a good person walks off the top of a building, they will drop to the ground, just like a bad person. Interest shifts as the topic shifts. You are interested in your department doing their work. And if you aren't, or are secretly not enjoying your job, then you rely on bribery (a paycheck) or punishment (disciplinary action and even termination).

So, let's ease up on our "slackers", okay? They don't want to do it. But they do it anyway. Because you supplied praise or punishment. These are the only artificial motivators when interest is lacking.

And let's remember this truth when you tell your children they should WANT to clean the house because it's theirs too and therefore will not get an allowance for doing so.

Haha! That's a good one.

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Friday, September 14, 2012

101 Ways to Deal with a Pain in the Butt at Work




You can get this free e-book on my site by giving me your email so I can send ya lots of emails and get you back to my website...but I've decided you shouldn't have to go through all those extra steps. Here's a link to my free e-book "101 Ways to Deail with a Pain in the Butt at Work." Enjoy!

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Thursday, September 13, 2012


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Sunday, August 5, 2012

Radical Self-Acceptance: Say Yes to It All

THE POWER OF YES



Suffering arises when we resist the life of the moment. This Yes meditation is an inner practice of acceptance in which we willingly allow our thoughts, emotions and sensations to be just as they are.

Yes does not mean we are approving of something or believing our judgments. Rather, the practice honors what is actually happening. In the moments we say Yes without resistance, Yes with our whole heart, acceptance becomes surrender into truth. By surrendering, we discover the openness and freedom of our true nature.

It is important to remember that it is not always wise to say Yes to inner experience. If we have been traumatized in the past, old feelings of terror may be triggered. More generally, we might not have the balance or resiliency in a particular moment to a difficult experience with the openness of Yes.

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Thursday, July 26, 2012

Radical Forgiveness

The Radical Forgiveness Worksheet

(From the Radical Forgiveness website): You cannot be in a peaceful state if you are holding resentment and anger about things that have happened in the past or continue to rob you of your peace even now. It is incredibly disempowering to make others responsible for your lack of happiness.

The answer, of course, is forgiveness. But don’t worry. We have a way to do it that is not at all difficult. It’s not like conventional forgiveness which is hard to do and rarely works. Radical Forgiveness is a simple step-by-step process that is fast, easy and extremely effective. It provides tools that enable you to quickly release whatever energies you are holding onto.


~Colin Tipping

Read the first chapter of Colin Tipping's book to learn why this worksheet is so powerful. I found that this was all I needed to get excited about this work and to complete the worksheet.

Now complete (print) this free PDF and work on a situation you are struggling with.

Forgiveness Worksheet

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Tuesday, July 17, 2012

How to "Let Go"

Letting Go

To let go doesn't mean to stop caring;
It means I can't do it for someone else.


To let go is not to cut myself off.
It's the realization that I can't control another.


To let go is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences.


To let go is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.


To let go is not to try and change or blame another,
I can only change myself.


To let go is not to care for, but to care about.
To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.


To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.


To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their own outcomes.


To let go is not to be protective;
it is to permit another to face reality.


To let go is not to deny, but to accept.


To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,
but to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.


To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish the moment.


To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.


To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.


To let go is to fear less and love more.



(Author Unknown)

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