Constructive Criticism is a Scam

"Constructive criticism" is a scam run by people who want to beat you up. And they want you to believe it is for your own good."

That's from a book by Cheri Huber called, "There is Nothing Wrong with You". I STRONGLY urge you to purchase a copy.

More:

"If you had a person in your life treating you the way you treat yourself, you would have gotten rid of them a long time ago."


Seem like too much trouble? To buy the book and read it? You'd rather just read snippets HERE and move onto something else that's easy? Hmmmmm. That sounds like a plan for KEEPING the notion in place that there is something wrong with you. I don't want that for you, and I don't want that for me.


So maybe this (from Cheri's book) will resonate:

"Self-hate uses self-improvement as self-maintenance. As long as you are concerned about improving yourself, you'll always have a self to improve. And you will always suffer."


I have no link for you to click on. I'm not selling Cheri Huber books. I'm selling peace (except it's free, so I tend to just fall on the "pro" side of the issue :) You know how to purchase a book. Go to that place/site and do this for yourself.




See Stephanie's site Work Stress Solutions for more information like this.

#22 of the 101 Ways to Love Your Job

Let's Talk About Talk

Notice your language starting now. Are you using words like "should," "have to," "I'd better..."? Whether you think this way or speak this way, you are sending messages to yourself (and others) about your lack of personal power. Our language is not arbitrary. Research suggests that even joking about ourselves is picked up by the subconscious as truth. So saying aloud, "I'm such a klutz!" is ultimately confirming your clumsiness as a sure thing.

Even worse than joking about our shortcomings are phrases called "dead enders." These phrases are a way of talking to yourself that puts off changing for the better so quickly it needs some special emphasis:

"That's just the way I am."
"I'm not a morning person."
"That's life."

Working at eliminating this type of response permanently wouldn't be the worst goal!

You will love ALL of the 101 Ways to Love Your Job....get it on Amazon today!

See my website for lots of work stress help: Work Stress Solutions.Com