No New Ways to Love Your Job

This blog is nothing more than my personal notes on how I get through a workday with grace and peace. Sometimes I write, other times I post a video that spoke to me; or refer you to yet another website or blog for an article or process. There is nothing new to share in the world. What is true has been said by many others before me. There are only a lot of different ways to say the same thing.

My world view is that if I have something pressing to say, there is someone out there who needs to hear it. That's why I find myself at the keyboard right this minute.

The poster below summarizes my current inner work much better than I can. Perhaps it is your current inner work as well? Projection, mirroring, shadow work...like that. Those ugly little triggers and hot buttons that really are at the heart of struggle and suffering and self-rejection. Maybe we could call them "pain points." That says it more accurately, if you ask me.

So this poster is my prescription for erasing my pain points:

Some suggestions for furthering this inner work: The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.


See Stephanie's site Work Stress Solutions for more information like this.

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall

There is an old saying that points out “We dislike most in others, what we dislike most in ourselves.”

With that in mind, to remove excess negativity, resentment, judgment, or tension in a relationship, and, yes, WORK STRESS, try using the Mirror Exercise.

The next time you feel angry, frustrated, or judgmental of another, flip it. In other words, ask yourself where you behave like the other person (or worry that you may lapse into that behavior and so spend lots of energy trying hard to not be “that way”). Instead of looking at them and labeling, look at yourself and make a mental shift.

This person of irritation is simply a mirror for you to look at aspects of yourself that you can't bear to acknowledge (yet). Read on for more information on how to do this process, and resources for Shadow Work.



See Stephanie's site Work Stress Solutions for more information like this.

Oops. You Did It Again

Everyone has blurted out an insensitive comment, slipped and told a secret we were asked to keep, or completely forgot an important appointment. Why do we do this?

The Johari Window is an excellent model for providing us with immediate insight into why we do what we do.

Named for its creators, Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham - the Johari Window is a useful tool for understanding and integrating misunderstood or unknown parts of ourselves. The Four Panes of the Johari Window represent the four parts of Self.

The First Pane is often called the Public Self or Arena. A self-aware person has a large Public Self crowding out the other panes and making them smaller in comparison. This person understands why she acts the way she does and is genuine and open with others.

The Second Pane is often called The Blind Spot. The "blind" quadrant represents things that you know about me, but that I am unaware of.

The Third Pane represents the Hidden Self and it holds what is known to us but kept hidden from others. This hidden or avoided self represents information and feelings not revealed or kept secret from others.

Lastly, the fourth pane is Unconscious. This area is unseen by everyone, including ourselves. The more we can access here, the less likely we will sabotage our true interests by saying things we don't wish to say or undermining our own value system.

For more details (and a free assessment) read the article on my site.