Another Look at Boundaries

Boundaries are needed when we are younger, esp. when we are raised in dysfunction (and I'd be surprised to hear from anyone in our generation or before that WASN'T raised in dysfunction. In my opinion, "even spanking" is abuse...I don't give a damn if it's on the fleshy part of your body..it's a practice based in anger and is traumatizing to the receiver). 

But I am finding more and more, that boundaries declared, can be a fine weapon against people we simply disagree with. We use the language (or I use the language) of "Don't tread on my boundary! I am setting it to advocate for myself..." but it's really a "screw you" in the conversation and ends all discussion. Something I'm looking at in myself, anyway.

See Stephanie's site Work Stress Solutions for more information like this.